I haven’t thought about the word “vain” in awhile and what it means. I don’t get it anymore, as an insult. It’s not something I would use, because it sounds so empty.
It just seems like a word to punish women for doing exactly what was asked of them.
“You only matter at all if you’re pretty!”
“Ugh you care if you’re pretty? VAIN”
That sounds like patriarchy.